Home Get support Self-help tools Show all tools Emotions Being calm Being calm This video presents a simple exercise to help calm your thoughts. Developing an attitude of calm and learning to adopt a calm attitude to life can be very helpful for stress management. More tips for developing a calm attitude Move slowly. Calm people move at a relaxed pace, speak at a relaxed pace and breathe at a relaxed pace. Consciously slow down these actions to become calmer. Tame the self-critic. Be gentler on yourself. Beware of having unrealistic expectations and reduce the demands and expectations you place on yourself and others. Accept that you are not perfect (no-one is) and that is fine. Take a step back. List all the good things in your life and put the stressful things in perspective. Look at the positive side of what is stressing you – there is always a positive. Laugh and have fun. Spend time every day doing enjoyable and rewarding activities. Some people like to: read, fish, golf, play board games, watch films, listen to music or learn an instrument. If you want to write or draw, don't worry about the quality, just do it as a way of being creative and reducing stress. Apply yourself. One of the best ways to forget your stress and anxiety is to direct your total concentration to the task at hand. It’s also the most enjoyable way to work and eat. Do one thing at a time. Keep your mind focussed on the present. Do whatever you’re doing more slowly, more intentionally and with more awareness and respect.